On Tuesday, January 28, 2025 I was privileged to share remarks to the NYPD Policewomen’s Endowment Association (PEA).

The event was their first meeting of the new year and occurred at The Marriott Conference Room on Eastchester Road in the Bronx.

My remarks were a continuation of my appointment as the NYPD Honorary Law Enforcement Motivational Speaker. The title was NYPD Policewomen’s Endowment Association: Ethical Leadership, Morale, Resiliency.

The PEA is one of forty-one fraternal organizations within the NYPD.

Gratitude

Before continuing, it must be noted that the leaders of these associations have significant administrative responsibilities and demands on their schedules, and they deserve gratitude.

One such leader is the current President of the PEA, Erica Bukowiecki.

Erica is one of numerous members of her family (whom I was privileged to meet last night) dedicated to law enforcement.

Erica’s leadership traits of public speaking, managing, selfless public service, and effective interaction skills with the members of the PEA were self-evident, and deserve appreciation.

NYPD Health and Wellness Section

It is also important to note the leadership of NYPD Inspector Mark Wachter, Commanding Officer of the Health and Wellness Section.

At last night's event, Inspector Wachter assigned members of his team to share positive remarks for the attendees, and all were well-received.

Also present for the Health and Wellness Section was Mary Ann Maginnis.

Mary Ann shared a powerful and deeply personal testimony that touched the hearts of every attendee.

Memorialized Remarks

As with all my presentations, my remarks are memorized.

This serves as a resource for members of the PEA, for the entire NYPD, and for all first responders.

My remarks, dedicated to the memory of NYPD Officer Colin Rossiter and NYPD Detective James Francis Carberry, were delivered via PowerPoint and were as follows:

NYPD PEA: Ethical Leadership, Morale, Resiliency

While in California on November 7, 2023, there was a sobering headline that pierced my soul:

“Four current and former L.A. Sheriff’s Department employees died by suicide in a 24-hour span”

The suicide deaths, four within 24 hours, prompted a plea from Sheriff Robert Luna urging deputies to check on the well-being of their colleagues and friends.

“We are stunned to learn of these deaths, and it has sent shock waves of emotions throughout the department as we try and cope with the loss of not just one, but four beloved active and retired members of our department family,” Luna said in an emailed statement Tuesday. “During difficult times like these it’s important for personnel regardless of rank or position to check on the well-being of other colleagues and friends.”

Since I would be in California for at least another 2 months, I was compelled to act.

One Phone Call

Sometimes, as all who law enforcement know, moving a mountain can begin with just one phone call, and so I called the U.S. Marshall of the SDNY.

In turn, Marshall Ralph Sozio made one phone call, to the right person, the NYPD liaison in California, and the chain of events to address the crisis began.

The NYPD liaison set up an initiative for my presentation to representatives from 18 law enforcement agencies from throughout California.

Before continuing, a simple reminder of how to respond to a crisis. We begin communication to solve an issue in a profoundly simple but meaningful way – pick up the phone, and make the call with confidence, resolve, and commitment.

Just one phone call can set into motion a chain of events that can transform lives.

Police Suicides: Awareness, Compassion, Action

Subsequently, this California initiative was followed with an article for my column for the National Association of Chiefs of Police.

The article was titled, Police Suicides: Awareness, Compassion, Action.

Although privileged to reach a national audience, the most important feedback was a text message from the mother of an NYPD officer, Colin Rossiter, who died by suicide.

Annemarie Rossiter periodically does an Internet search on her son’s name.

She came across my article which honored Colin and all first responders who died by suicide.

Colin’s mother, in that one gracious text message began a chain of events that has continued with ongoing sharing (often daily) of uplifting and inspirational remarks.

Annemarie's kindness is a reminder that our words, meant to uplift and support others, and our actions - especially as NYPD personnel, are profoundly meaningful.

In short, you are the ethical protectors of this city, protecting the marginalized, the innocent, crestfallen, the elderly – the city.

Society only survives because of the value of your profession, and the noble work you do.

As you protect the people of the city, also remain vigilant in protecting yourselves and one another.

OPERATION RESILIENCY

Five months ago, I developed the initiative titled NYPD /FDNY Operation Resiliency: Ethical Leadership, Morale, Emotional Resiliency, Suicide Prevention.

Since then, I have been privileged to conduct presentations including peer support at both the NYPD and FDNY academies, NYPD promotion classes, fraternal organizations such as tonight, firehouses, and many follow up chats and communications.

The work began thanks to the leadership of former Commissioner Thomas G. Donlon,. It followed with the invitation of NYPD Chief Supervising Surgeon Doctor Eli Kleinman to speak to the Police Self Support Group.

Since my presentation, I have been in contact with numerous members of the group on a daily basis.

As you know, the Police Self Support Group, as they are line of duty personnel, are uniquely special individuals of the NYPD. May we always support them and hold them in our prayers.

THE WOUNDED HEALER

The Police Self Support Group inspired me to share thoughts on The Wounded Healer by Henri Nouwen during my presentation to them, and afterwards at other events.

A few thoughts of this concept for you:

• “When our wounds cease to be a source of shame, and become a source of healing, we have become wounded healers.”

• “Nobody escapes being wounded. We are all wounded people, whether physically, emotionally, mentally, or spiritually.”

• “Our service will not be perceived as authentic, unless it comes from a heart wounded by the suffering we encounter in others.”

• “The main question is not ‘How can we hide our wounds?’ so we don’t have to be embarrassed, but ‘How can we put our woundedness in the service of others?”

Tonight, beside sharing thoughts on The Wounded Healer easily transitioned to The Wounded Protector for all law enforcement, I would also like you to be empowered with another thought - The Ethical Protector.

THE ETHICAL PROTECTOR

The Ethical Protector: each of us dedicated to the noble NYPD profession has a completely different moral compass – we are protectors.

Our DNA irrefutably has a laser focus - protecting the innocent, the vulnerable, the helpless members of society.

This ethical protector moral compass is so fine-tuned, that we understand that as protectors, that wherever we are, people are safe because of our presence.

The Ethical Protector Responds to the Brokenhearted

A quick thought - after one of my presentations, I was approached by a young woman who asked for my advice.

She asked, “what do I do. I feel so broken inside, a place no one can see, hopeless and most importantly invisible to others. Sometimes I feel that my soul is crying, and if only someone would just acknowledge me, ask me if I am OK – what I would do for someone to invite me to just sit with them and listen to me.”

The brokenhearted are in our families, communities, workplaces, within the NYPD – we must respond with compassion, concern, and empathy. We must have our eyes, and our hearts wide open.

Recently, during one of my volunteer visits to senior residence homes, (where I am privileged to visit about 40 seniors, at times on their death beds, to administer the Eucharist) an 86-year-old woman told me another story.

She shared the story of her father, NYPD Detective James Francis Carberry, who died by suicide in 1938.

Clare told me she was a 10-year-old girl, and the first one to find her father after his death by suicide. The memory of this tragedy has remained with Claire throughout her life.

Clare asked me to share that she did not have the knowledge as a child to see, the signs.

She asked me to tell you - you have the power through your encounters, observation skills, empathy, compassion, and sixth-sense to respond to the warning signs of brokenness.

Do so with kindness, dignity, and affirmation – you can change and save lives.

Dr. Conrad Baars: The Healing Power of Affirmation

During the last 45 years, I have been a practitioner of the famous psychiatrist Dr. Conrad Baars.

His vast collection of books can be summed up as follows:

“Affirmation has a power that can transform lives. It is a catalyst that ignites hope into the souls of human beings. Affirmation recognizes, appreciates, and encourages the qualities of others.

“The challenges of life can deprive individuals of the basic human need of unconditional love and appreciation. Yet, the affirmative person, the wounded healer, and for us tonight the wounded protector, inspires healing of the body, mind, spirit, and emotions.”

Final Reflection

Inspired by the honor guard of the Tomb of the Unknown Soldier at Arlington National Cemetery in Washington D.C., I ask you to apply these words from the Sentinel’s creed, from those who guard the tomb. This sacred place holds our heroes who died in service of America.

The message from their creed applies to you; in your noble, necessary, and admirable work to protect society:

“My dedication to this sacred duty is total and wholehearted. In the responsibility bestowed upon me, never will I falter.

“And with dignity and perseverance my standard will remain perfection.”

Continue your mission as it is honorable and necessary for our communities, and each of you are appreciated and admired.

Note Well: The Liberation Monument

Surrounded by the significance of Ellis Island, the Statue of Liberty and the New York skyline is the Liberation Monument in Liberty View Park, Jersey City, N.J.

Designed by sculptor Nathan Rapaport, this inspirational statue depicts a World War II American soldier carrying a survivor from a concentration camp.

This image moves the soul to reflect on the values of compassion, character and courage.

A photo of this magnificent monument was shared with the PEA.

It was my sincere hope to inspire them to connect with the great Americans of our history, and uphold their legacy through their privileged profession as members of the NYPD.

Leadership is pivotal for our NYPD personnel, whom are a national treasure. We must be fully dedicated and committed to assisting one another. This will lead to America's rightful destiny as a beacon of moral leadership for the world.

Mental Health Resources for NYPD Members

About Vincent

Vincent J. Bove is a national speaker, author, and confidant on issues critical to America with 325 published works.

His most recent of four books are Reawakening America © and Listen to Their Cries.©

Bove is recipient of the FBI Director's Community Leadership Award, former confidant of players from two world-champion New York Yankee teams, and served as spokesperson for a coalition of Virginia Tech tragedy victim's families.

He has been appointed Honorary Law Enforcement Motivational Speaker by the NYPD. In this role he addresses ethical leadership, building morale, emotional resiliency, and suicide prevention at NYPD and FDNY events, roll calls, firehouses, and in published works.

Bove has been an author for the National Association of Chiefs of Police for 15 years. He has over 60 published works, and an unprecedented 18 cover stories for their magazine.

Bove served the Bergen County Police Chiefs Association for 20 consecutive years as liaison and chairperson on policing leadership, violence prevention, and public safety issues.

He conducted Leadership Principles: Crisis Planning, Community Partnerships, Violence Prevention © keynotes to safeguard New York City at sites including:

· Museums hosted by the Museum of Modern Art (MoMA)

· Corporations hosted by The New York Stock Exchange

· Hospitals hosted by Rockefeller University

· Properties hosted by The Union Club of New York

· Universities hosted by Columbia University, the New York Athletic Club and Fordham University.

Bove has conducted extensive leadership presentations for the NYPD, FBI, the United States Military Academy, law enforcement, educators, security professionals, and students nationwide. vincentbove.com

“We must all serve as catalysts to protect our workplaces, schools, communities, public spaces, houses of worship, and one another.

Public safety demands leadership, vigilance, and collaboration.

"Security and personal safety demands comprehensive enhancements, on-going training, effective response to warning signs, and building bridges with law enforcement, private security, and every member of the community.” Vincent J Bove

Related Bove Published Works by the National Association of Chiefs of Police:

21st Century Policing: Issues and Response

21st Century American Policing Demands Ethical Leadership

Police Suicides: Awareness, Compassion, Action

Safeguarding America’s Protectors: A Community Responsibility

America’s Law Enforcement Sacrifices Demand Eternal Gratitude

Igniting 21st Century Ethical Policing: Understanding the Profession

Photos:

1. PEA members, Jan. 28, 2025. President Erica Bukowiecki standing to me immediate left, with her family members to my right. Uniformed officer on far left is PEA board member. (RALLC)

2. NYPD Officer Colin Rossiter. (Credit: NYPD)

3. NYPD FDNY Operation Resiliency Collage. (RALLC)

4. Collage honoring NYPD Detective James F. Carberry. His daughter Claire on bottom right. (RALLC)

5. Vincent J. Bove article for the NACOP.

6. Vincent J. Bove, NYPD Headquarters, Dec. 10, 2024. (Courtesy NYPD American Legion Post 460)

Thank you to all who made my appointment by possible, and authorized me to train, advise and assist members of the NYPD and FDNY:

· NYPD Police Commissioner Thomas G. Donlon for his visionary leadership and confidence in me.

· FDNY Commissioner Robert Tucker for his leadership with partnering the FDNY with the NYPD.

· NYPD Executive Staff for their time during our meetings, and brainstorming an action plan for my initiative.

· Chief John Benoit, Director of Personnel for his time with Commissioner Donlon and myself, and the professionalism of his staff during my appointment processing.

· Chief Supervising Surgeon Dr. Eli Kleinman M.D. M.P.H for the conference call with him, and Dr. Lokesh Reddy M.D., Psychiatrist; and for his invitation to speak to the Police Self Support Group (PSSG) on November 14, 2024.

· Inspector Mark Wachter, Commanding Officer of the Health and Wellness Section for developing an actionable plan on my appointment for the Police Commissioner.

· FDNY Lieutenant / Deputy Director Andrew Kane, Bureau of Health Services / Counseling Unit for coordinating fire house visits, and my keynote to the FDNY Peer Support Group.

· PSSG Training Coordinator Peter Pallos for his admirable dedication to assisting others, and his invitation to speak at various events.

· NYPD legal matters, POPPA, the New York City Police Foundation, and many NYPD officials whom made my appointment possible after our PC conference room collaboration.

· NYPD Deputy Chief Richie Taylor for his support of my appointment and dedication to his profession.

In particular, it is imperative to express my admiration for all NYPD and FDNY personnel dedicated to protecting our communities, and to the NYPD Police Self Support Group and NYPD and FDNY Peer Support Groups for their inspiring commitment to help their colleagues.

NYPD / FDNY Operation Resiliency

Ethical Leadership, Morale, Emotional Resiliency,

Suicide Prevention

Presentations / Remarks 2024 – 2025

Memorialized in The Sentinel

*Published by The National Association of Chiefs of Police

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THE SENTINEL

Wednesday, January 29, 2025

NYPD Policewomen’s Endowment Association: Ethical Leadership, Morale, Resiliency

Mental Health Resources for NYPD Members

“We must all serve as catalysts to protect our workplaces, schools, communities, public spaces, houses of worship, and one another.

Public safety demands leadership, vigilance, and collaboration.

"Security and personal safety demands comprehensive enhancements, on-going training, effective response to warning signs, and building bridges with law enforcement, private security, and every member of the community.” Vincent J Bove

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