Friday, May 23, 2025

The NYPD Police Self Support Group: To Survive and to Serve

On Thursday, May 22, 2025, my wife Lily and I were privileged to attend the NYPD Police Self Support Group Annual Awards Dinner in Howard Beach, New York.

The Police Self Support Group (PSSG) is an exclusive fraternal group of the NYPD serving the special needs of police officers with serious line-of-duty injuries, or life-threatening illnesses.

My appointment by the NYPD began seven months ago as the Honorary Law Enforcement Motivational Speaker with my first presentation to the PSSG. 

The presentation was memorialized in my article for the National Association of Chiefs of Police.

Excerpt: Principled Leadership, Morale, Resilience, Suicide Prevention ©

“On Thursday, November 14, 2024, I was the privileged guest speaker for the NYPD Medical Division at their Corona, Queens facility.

“My remarks were titled The NYPD: Leading Through a National Crisis ©.

“The favorable feedback to my remarks led to the privileged appointment by the Police Commissioner, in collaboration with numerous of his NYPD colleagues, of Honorary Law Enforcement Motivational Speaker.

“My remarks included the following:

“The challenging times for law enforcement throughout America, with alarming levels of stress, wounded morale, senseless acts of violence, and suicide.

“The NYPD is not immune to these challenges. Each of us must be catalysts of change to ignite a culture of respect, affirmation, and gratitude.

“The necessity of principled leadership, morale enhancement, emotional resilience, and suicide prevention.

“The paramount mandate of inspiring ethical protectors; personified by character, empathy, and compassion for others.

“A laser focused goal of inspiring a culture that values the physical, spiritual, and mental well-being of every member of the NYPD.

The Wounded Healer ©

My remarks continued with sharing my commentary on the wisdom from the 1979 book titled The Wounded Healer © by Henri Nouwen.

The commentary included the following excerpts (some are paraphrased):

“When our wounds cease to be a source of shame, and become a source of healing, we have become wounded healers.”

“Nobody escapes being wounded. We are all wounded people, whether physically, emotionally, mentally, or spiritually.”

“Our service will not be perceived as authentic, unless it comes from a heart wounded by the suffering we encounter in others.”

“The main question is not ‘How can we hide our wounds?’ so we don’t have to be embarrassed, but ‘How can we put our woundedness in the service of others?”

“To enter into solidarity with a suffering person does not mean that we have to talk with that person about our own suffering.  We must by sympathetic listeners, as speaking about our own pain is seldom helpful for someone who is in pain.”

“A wounded healer is someone who can listen [and empathize] to a person in pain without having to speak about his or her own wounds.”

“When we have experienced pain, we can listen with great attentiveness and compassion to another in pain without spotlighting our own wounds.”

“Mostly, it is better not to direct a suffering person’s attention to ourselves.  We have to trust that our own wounds will allow us to listen to others with our whole being.  The empathetic listening leads to healing.

“On November 14, The Police Self Support Group had the honor of meeting Vincent J. Bove who represented the Police Commissioner.

“It was truly impressive and uplifting to have someone speak to us, and chat individually before and after his presentation, who supports our program and methodology.

“Vincent’s presentation focused on the wounded healer, and he encouraged us to use our experiences to help others to heal.

“We are confident that our program can serve as a national model on police helping one another. 

We are hopeful that with individuals like Vincent in our corner, and others who support the NYPD, we will be more effective in our dedication to assist our police family, and our communities.” 

Peter Pallos, Training Coordinator (PSSG), 23 years with the group.

“It was great seeing Peter Pallos, CISM/CIT and Vincent J. Bove last night. Having practiced in the field of forensic psychology for 47 years and obtaining three masters degrees and a Columbia university PHD, I can state unequivocally that both of these men are on my short list of heroes.” 

Dr. Stephen Wakschal

FINAL REFLECTION

Inspired by the honor guard of the Tomb of the Unknown Soldier at Arlington National Cemetery in Washington D.C., I ask you to apply these words from the Sentinel’s creed, from those who guard the tomb.

This sacred place holds our heroes who died in service of America.

The message from their creed applies to each of us; in our noble, necessary, and admirable work to protect society:

“My dedication to this sacred duty is total and wholehearted. In the responsibility bestowed upon me, never will I falter.

“And with dignity and perseverance my standard will remain perfection.”

Let us continue our mission as it is honorable and necessary for our communities, and always remember that each of you is appreciated and admired.

NOTE WELL: THE LIBERATION MONUMENT

Surrounded by the significance of Ellis Island, the Statue of Liberty and the New York skyline is the Liberation Monument in Liberty View Park, Jersey City, N.J.

Designed by sculptor Nathan Rapaport, this inspirational statue depicts a World War II American soldier carrying a survivor from a concentration camp.

This image moves the soul to reflect on the values of compassion, character, and courage.

A photo of this magnificent monument is often shared with my audiences. 

It is my sincere hope to inspire them to connect with the great Americans of our history, and uphold their legacy through their privileged profession as members of the NYPD.

Leadership is pivotal for our NYPD personnel, and all our first responders. Our public servants are a national treasure.

We must be fully dedicated and committed to assisting each of them, and one another. 

This will lead to America's rightful destiny as a beacon of moral leadership for the world.

NOTE WELL:  It has been my privilege to collaborate with the Columbia Lighthouse Project (CLP)
over the last two months, and to use their emotional resiliency and suicide prevention app on my phone. 

During this time, I have also distributed their suicide awareness and prevention card to NYPD personnel. 

Recently, NYPD Health and Wellness realized the advantage of collaborating with CLP and will have the CLP suicide prevention app available to NYPD personnel. 

This imperative technology, as documented in my Principles of American Policing for the NACOP (Cover Story / Summer 2015), is essential to benefit the emotional resiliency of the NYPD, and law enforcement throughout America.

    Principle of America Policing No. Five is as follows:  

      “Police deserve the latest and most effective technology to protect themselves and the public." 

    ABOUT VINCENT

Vincent J. Bove is a national speaker, author, and confidant on issues critical to America with 325 published works.

His most recent of four books are Reawakening America © and Listen to Their Cries.© 

Bove is recipient of the FBI Director's Community Leadership Award, former confidant of players from two world-champion New York Yankee teams, and served as spokesperson for a coalition of Virginia Tech tragedy victim's families. 

In 2024, Bove was appointed Honorary Law Enforcement Motivational Speaker by the NYPD.  

In this role he addresses ethical leadership, building morale, emotional resiliency, and suicide prevention at NYPD and FDNY events, roll calls, firehouses, and in published works.

Bove has been an author for the National Association of Chiefs of Police for 16 years. He has over 60 published works, and an unprecedented 18 cover stories for their magazine.

Bove served the Bergen County Police Chiefs Association for 20 consecutive years as liaison and chairperson on policing leadership, violence prevention, and public safety issues.

He conducted Leadership Principles: Crisis Planning, Community Partnerships, Violence Prevention © keynotes to safeguard New York City at sites including:

·       Museums hosted by the Museum of Modern Art (MoMA)

·       Corporations hosted by The New York Stock Exchange

·       Hospitals hosted by Rockefeller University

·       Properties hosted by The Union Club of New York

·       Universities hosted by Columbia University, the New York Athletic Club and Fordham University.

Bove has conducted extensive leadership presentations for the NYPD, FBI, the United States Military Academy, law enforcement, educators, security professionals, and students nationwide. vincentbove.com

“We must all serve as catalysts to protect our workplaces, schools, communities, public spaces, houses of worship, and one another. 

Public safety demands leadership, vigilance, and collaboration.  

"Security and personal safety demands comprehensive enhancements, on-going training, effective response to warning signs, and building bridges with law enforcement, private security, and every member of the community.”  Vincent J Bove


NYPD Survey Excerpts on Bove PSSG Presentation:

"Bove was inspirational and encouraging.  He impacts many in a positive and therapeutic approach...this is needed at the police academy with the future members of the NYPD."

"Excellent Presentation, please continue attending our meetings, and speak at the police academy, the beginning of the officers careers - 100% on today's presentation, truly excellent."

"Bove did an amazing job with everything - leadership, morale, emotional health and suicide prevention needed in today's NYPD - keep doing what your doing as the NYPD needs this department wide."

"Keep getting the message out, and especially in the high-crime precincts."

"This message is needed in all of the NYPD commands, 100 % on point."

"The speaker did a great job connecting with us when morale and emotional health is needed."

Related Bove Published Works by the National Association of Chiefs of Police:

The NYPD: Leading Through a National Crisis ©

NYPD Employee Assistance Unit: Leading Through a National Crisis ©

21st Century Policing: Issues and Response                           

21st Century American Policing Demands Ethical Leadership

Police Suicides: Awareness, Compassion, Action

Safeguarding America’s Protectors: A Community Responsibility

America’s Law Enforcement Sacrifices Demand Eternal Gratitude

Igniting 21st Century Ethical Policing: Understanding the Profession

PHOTOS:

1. NYPD PSSG Collage, May 22, 2025. Credit: Reawakening America LLC (RALLC)

2. NYPD PSSG Info Card. Credit: NYPD PSSG

3. The NACOP article titled The Tomb of the Unknown Soldier, Vincent J. Bove. (NACOP)

4. The Liberation Monument, Jersey City, NJ. (RALLC)

5. Principles of America Policing, Cover Story by Vincent J. Bove for the NACOP, Summer 2015, also published numerous times since 2015 in The Sentinel and NACOP articles.

6. Bove addresses NYPD TD 4 roll call, one of five roll calls on May 7, 2025. Credit: Lieutenant John Froehlich, NYPD TD 4 at Union Square Park, NYC.

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Wednesday, May 14, 2025

The NYPD TD 1: Ethical Leadership, Courage, Resiliency

On Tuesday, May 13, 2025, I was the privileged guest speaker at the NYPD TD 1.

TD 1 is located at 59th Street/Columbus Circle Subway Station just before the west side entrance to Central Park.

My visit took place in the evening after spending the day at the NYPD 32 Precinct in Harlem. 

During my time at TD 1, I had the opportunity to share remarks to two evening roll calls.

Gratitude

Captain Marion M. Cuevas, Commanding Officer of NYPD TD 1 for his leadership and graciously attending this event.  

The captain also shared heartfelt, sincere, and inspiring remarks on resiliency during the roll call. 

Captain Cuevas’s encouragement through personal experience made a positive impact on his personnel, motivating them to watch out for themselves and their NYPD colleagues.

Lieutenant Fernando Lopez of NYPD TD 1 for his collaboration organizing my roll call remarks, and his hospitality with my visit.  

His leadership exemplifies the qualities of respect, professionalism, and courtesy which are critical to 21st Century Policing.

THE SENTINEL

As with many of my law enforcement activities over the last 25 years, they are memorialized in The Sentinel.

This provides a resource for law enforcement, government leaders, and communities.

The documentation respects the importance of collaboration; and the need to work together to empower, encourage, and inspire character.

It also serves my goal of assisting law enforcement agencies to be recognized as a national model of 21st Century Policing.

These efforts are published in my numerous articles for the National Association of Chiefs of Police for the last 15 years.

My efforts have been privileged to receive a unique spotlight since my privileged appointment as the NYPD Honorary Law Enforcement Motivational Speaker seven months ago.

Honoring American Sacrifices - As memorialized in The Chief of Police

During my remarks, I took time to share experiences my wife and I had visiting both World War II American military cemeteries in Italy.

We visited these sacred grounds to honor Americans who offered the ultimate sacrifice for freedom.

Respecting our military, and reverence for those who lost their lives in service of our freedom, is an indisputable principle for the reawakening of our nation. 

It is also one of the nine Principles of American Policing.

This respect is complemented by honoring the fallen law enforcement professionals who have lost their lives protecting and serving our communities.

Reflections of the World War II American Military Cemetery visits are memorialized in the journal I maintained during our travels and are as follows:

“In the afternoon, we traveled from Florence, Italy to the Florence American WWII Cemetery, 7 ½ miles south in Impruneta to honor American hero’s from World War II.

“On these sacred grounds lie 4,393 Americans.

“There is also a large sculptured figure on site titled ‘The Spirit of Peace’ and tablets of 1,409 have their names engraved upon it as missing in action.

“While walking these hallowed grounds, we felt mystically connected to these sacred souls, a deeper appreciation of America, and profoundly aware of the price of freedom.”

July 1, 2023: Sicily-Rome American Cemetery

“Today we traveled 1.5 hours by train from Rome to the Sicily-Rome American Cemetery in the town
of Nettuno.

“We then walked 25 minutes from the station to the cemetery, morally obligated as Americans to visit both resting places for our World War II heroes.

“These visitations were enriching spiritual experiences forever engraved into our souls.

“Here in Nettuno is the sacred burial ground of 7,858 Americans. Also, in the on-site chapel an additional 3,095 names are engraved into stone. These are the missing in action, lost at sea, or buried at sea.

China, California, New Jersey

During today's visit I also shared experiences in China, and serving law enforcement in California to work on suicide prevention.

When I returned home to New Jersey after 9 months of travel to Italy, China, and California, I received a call from former NYPD Commissioner Thomas G. Donlon.

Soon after this call, my initiative, built on the pillars of ethical leadership, morale, emotional resiliency, and suicide prevention began. 

I was appointed the NYPD Honorary Law Enforcement Motivational Speaker after an extensive vetting process with many department representatives.

ETHICAL LEADERSHIP, MORALE, RESILIENCY, SUICIDE PREVENTION

While in California on November 7, 2023, there was a sobering headline that pierced my soul:

“Four current and former L.A. Sheriff’s Department employees died by suicide in a 24-hour span”

The suicide deaths, four within 24 hours, prompted a plea from Sheriff Robert Luna urging deputies to check on the well-being of their colleagues and friends.

“We are stunned to learn of these deaths, and it has sent shock waves of emotions throughout the department as we try and cope with the loss of not just one, but four beloved active and retired members of our department family,” Luna said in an emailed statement Tuesday. “During difficult times like these it’s important for personnel regardless of rank or position to check on the well-being of other colleagues and friends.”

Since I would be in California for at least another 2 months, I was compelled to act.

ONE PHONE CALL

Sometimes, as law enforcement knows, moving a mountain can begin with just one phone call, and so I called the U.S. Marshall of the SDNY.

In turn, Marshall Ralph Sozio made one phone call, to the right person, the NYPD liaison in California, and the chain of events to address the crisis began.

The NYPD liaison, Detective John Lunt, set up an initiative for my presentation to representatives from 18 law enforcement agencies from throughout California.

Before continuing, a simple reminder of how to respond to a crisis. We begin communication in a profoundly simple but meaningful way – pick up the phone, and make the call with confidence, resolve, and commitment.

Just one phone call can set into motion a chain of events that can transform lives.

Police Suicides: Awareness, Compassion, Action

Subsequently, this California initiative was followed with an article for my column for the National Association of Chiefs of Police.

The article was titled, Police Suicides: Awareness, Compassion, Action.

OPERATION RESILIENCY: BACKGROUND

Seven months ago, I developed the initiative titled NYPD /FDNY Operation Resiliency: Ethical Leadership, Morale, Emotional Resiliency, Suicide Prevention.

Since then, I have been privileged to conduct presentations including peer support at both the NYPD and FDNY academies and the MTAPD, NYPD promotion classes, fraternal organizations, firehouses, roll calls, suicide prevention training sessions with Dr. Stephen Wacshal of ConQueR Suicide, an NYPD Spiritual Retreat, and many follow up chats and communications.

THE WOUNDED HEALER

As with other recent presentations, today I shared thoughts on The Wounded Healer by Henri Nouwen.

A few thoughts of this concept:

• “When our wounds cease to be a source of shame, and become a source of healing, we have become wounded healers.”

• “Nobody escapes being wounded. We are all wounded people, whether physically, emotionally, mentally, or spiritually.”

• “Our service will not be perceived as authentic, unless it comes from a heart wounded by the suffering we encounter in others.”

• “The main question is not ‘How can we hide our wounds? so we don’t have to be embarrassed, but   How can we put our woundedness in the service of others?”

Besides thoughts on The Wounded Healer, easily transitioned to The Wounded Protector for all law enforcement, I would also like you to be empowered with another thought - The Ethical Protector.

THE ETHICAL PROTECTOR

The Ethical Protector: each of us dedicated to the noble law enforcement profession has a unique moral compass – ethical protectors.

The law enforcement DNA irrefutably has a laser focus - protecting innocent, vulnerable, helpless, and marginalized members of society.

This ethical protector moral compass is so fine-tuned, that we understand that as protectors, that wherever we are, people are safe because of our presence.

THE ETHICAL PROTECTOR: DEDICATED TO THE BROKENHEARTED

A quick thought - after one of my presentations, I was approached by a young woman who asked for my advice.

She asked, “what do I do. I feel so broken inside, a place no one can see, hopeless and most importantly invisible to others. Sometimes I feel that my soul is crying, and if only someone would just acknowledge me, ask me if I am OK – what I would do for someone to invite me to just sit with them and listen to me.”


The brokenhearted are in our families, communities, workplaces, within the NYPD – we must respond with compassion, concern, and empathy. We must have our eyes, and our hearts wide open.

Recently, during one of my volunteer visits to senior residence homes, (where I am privileged to visit about 40 seniors, at times on their death beds, to administer the Eucharist) an 86-year-old woman told me another story.

She shared the story of her father, NYPD Detective James Francis Carberry, who died by suicide in 1938.

Clare told me she was a 10-year-old girl, and the first one to find her father after his death by suicide.

The memory of this tragedy has remained with Claire throughout her life.

Clare asked me to share that she did not have the knowledge as a child to see, the signs.

She asked me to share - you have the power through your encounters, observation skills, empathy, compassion, and sixth-sense to respond to the warning signs of brokenness.

Do so with kindness, dignity, and affirmation – you can change, and save lives.

DR. CONRAD BAARS: THE HEALING POWER OF AFFIRMATION

During the last 45 years, I have been a practitioner of the famous psychiatrist Dr. Conrad Baars.

His vast collection of books can be summed up as follows:

Affirmation has a power that can transform lives.  It is a catalyst that ignites hope into the souls of human beings. Affirmation recognizes, appreciates, and encourages the qualities of others.


“The challenges of life can deprive individuals of the basic human need of unconditional love and appreciation. Yet, the affirmative person, the wounded healer, and for us today, the wounded protector, inspires healing of the body, mind, spirit, and emotions.”    Vincent J. Bove

A REFLECTION

Inspired by the honor guard of the Tomb of the Unknown Soldier at Arlington National Cemetery in Washington D.C., I ask you to apply these words from the Sentinel’s creed, from those who guard the tomb.

This sacred place holds our heroes who died in service of America.

The message from their creed applies to each of us; in our noble, necessary, and admirable work to protect society:


“My dedication to this sacred duty is total and wholehearted. In the responsibility bestowed upon me, never will I falter.

“And with dignity and perseverance my standard will remain perfection.”

Let us continue our mission as it is honorable and necessary for our communities, and always remember that each of you is appreciated and admired.

FINAL REFLECTION: THE LIBERATION MONUMENT

Surrounded by the significance of Ellis Island, the Statue of Liberty and the New York skyline is the Liberation Monument in Liberty View Park, Jersey City, N.J.

Designed by sculptor Nathan Rapaport, this inspirational statue depicts a World War II American soldier carrying a survivor from a concentration camp.

This image moves the soul to reflect on the values of compassion, character, and courage.

A photo of this magnificent monument is often shared with my audiences. 

It is my sincere hope to inspire them to connect with the great Americans of our history, and uphold their legacy through their privileged profession as members of the NYPD.

Leadership is pivotal for our NYPD personnel, and all our first responders. 

Our public servants are a national treasure. We must be fully dedicated and committed to assisting each of them, and one another. 

This will lead to America's rightful destiny as a beacon of moral leadership for the world.

NOTE WELL:  It has been my privilege to collaborate with the Columbia Lighthouse Project (CLP) over the last two months, and to use their emotional resiliency and suicide prevention app on my phone. 

During this time, I have also distributed their suicide awareness and prevention card to NYPD personnel. 

Recently, NYPD Health and Wellness realized the advantage of collaborating with CLP and will have the CLP suicide prevention app available to NYPD personnel. 

This imperative technology as documented in my Principles of American Policing for the NACOP (Cover Story / Summer 2015) is essential to benefit the emotional resiliency of the NYPD, and law enforcement throughout America.

    Principle of America Policing No. Five is as follows:  

      “Police deserve the latest and most effective technology to protect themselves and the public." 

    ABOUT VINCENT

Vincent J. Bove is a national speaker, author, and confidant on issues critical to America with 325 published works.

His most recent of four books are Reawakening America © and Listen to Their Cries.© 

Bove is recipient of the FBI Director's Community Leadership Award, former confidant of players from two world-champion New York Yankee teams, and served as spokesperson for a coalition of Virginia Tech tragedy victim's families. 

In 2024, Bove was appointed Honorary Law Enforcement Motivational Speaker by the NYPD.  

In this role he addresses ethical leadership, building morale, emotional resiliency, and suicide prevention at NYPD and FDNY events, roll calls, firehouses, and in published works.

Bove has been an author for the National Association of Chiefs of Police for 15 years. He has over 60 published works, and an unprecedented 18 cover stories for their magazine.

Bove served the Bergen County Police Chiefs Association for 20 consecutive years as liaison and chairperson on policing leadership, violence prevention, and public safety issues.

He conducted Leadership Principles: Crisis Planning, Community Partnerships, Violence Prevention © keynotes to safeguard New York City at sites including:

·       Museums hosted by the Museum of Modern Art (MoMA)

·       Corporations hosted by The New York Stock Exchange

·       Hospitals hosted by Rockefeller University

·       Properties hosted by The Union Club of New York

·       Universities hosted by Columbia University, the New York Athletic Club and Fordham University.

Bove has conducted extensive leadership presentations for the NYPD, FBI, the United States Military Academy, law enforcement, educators, security professionals, and students nationwide. vincentbove.com

“We must all serve as catalysts to protect our workplaces, schools, communities, public spaces, houses of worship, and one another. 

“Public safety demands leadership, vigilance, and collaboration.  

"Security and personal safety demands comprehensive enhancements, on-going training, effective response to warning signs, and building bridges with law enforcement, private security, and every member of the community.”  Vincent J Bove

Related Bove Published Works by the National Association of Chiefs of Police:

The NYPD: Leading Through a National Crisis ©

NYPD Employee Assistance Unit: Leading Through a National Crisis ©

21st Century Policing: Issues and Response                           

21st Century American Policing Demands Ethical Leadership

Police Suicides: Awareness, Compassion, Action

Safeguarding America’s Protectors: A Community Responsibility

America’s Law Enforcement Sacrifices Demand Eternal Gratitude

Igniting 21st Century Ethical Policing: Understanding the Profession

PHOTOS:

1. NYPD TD 1, May 13, 2025. Reawakening America LLC (RALLC)

2. NYPD TD 1, May 13, 2025. Reawakening America LLC (RALLC)

3. Florence American Military Cemetery, June 21, 2023. Reawakening America LLC (RALLC)

4. Sicily Rome American Cemetery, July 1, 2023. (RALLC)

5. Illustration Credit: Sgt. Zachary Saenz, Edinburg Police Department.

6. The Columbia Lighthouse Project in collaboration with Reawakening America LLC.

7. The NACOP article titled The Tomb of the Unknown Soldier, Vincent J. Bove. (NACOP)

8. The Liberation Monument, Jersey City, NJ. (RALLC)

9. Principles of America Policing, Cover Story by Vincent J. Bove for the NACOP, Summer 2015, also published numerous times since 2015 in The Sentinel and NACOP articles.

10. Vincent J. Bove, NYPD TD 4 roll call remarks, May 7, 2025. (RALLC)

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The NYPD 32 in Harlem: Courage, Legacy, Resiliency

On Tuesday, May 13, 2025, I was the privileged guest speaker at the NYPD 32 Precinct in Harlem.

The 32nd Precinct is located at 250 W. 135th Street and serves the northeastern portion of Harlem. 

There are six public housing complexes and 11 private housing developments in the confines of the precinct.

The business district is located on Lenox Ave. between West 132nd and 139th Streets.

During my visit, I spoke at roll call and toured the precinct; speaking to NYPD personnel throughout, including the Detective Squad, Field Intelligence Office, Domestic Violence Unit, and the Desk.

Tribute

Upon entering the precinct, one encounters those who died in the line of duty on the tribute wall.

It is a profoundly mesmerizing, mystical, and solemn experience to look into the eyes of NYPD officers who offered the ultimate sacrifice protecting the people of the community.

These individuals, whom represent the most profound sacrifice, represent the best of all of us and must never be forgotten.

Notably present on the wall are NYPD Officers Jason Rivera and Wilbert Mora. 

The sacrifices of these two great officers were noted in my article titled Safeguarding America’s Protectors: A Community Responsibility for the National Association of Chiefs of Police.

An excerpt from the article is as follows:

“As I spoke to the Bergen County Police Chiefs association, we were in the heart-wrenching shadows of the funerals of two NYPD officers that numerous chiefs in the audience attended.

“NYPD officers Wilbert Mora and Jason Rivera were both shot and killed in Harlem on Friday, Jan. 21, 2022.

“The two officers were killed while responding to a call about an argument between a woman and her adult son. The son killed both officers at point-blank range, before being shot dead by another responding officer.”

 

GRATITUDE: NYPD Officer Ellen Usher

Before continuing, a special note of admiration for NYPD Police Officer Ellen Usher of the 32 Precinct.

Today’s event was only possible due to her leadership.

Officer Usher and I first met during the NYPD Don Bosco Retreat where I was privileged to introduce NYPD personnel to the Salesian spirituality.

Remarkably, Officer Usher has served the community of the 32 precinct for 33 consecutive years.

The 32 has been her home since her first days as an NYPD officer, and the community has been a better place because of her inspiring dedication to protect and serve.

Officer Usher personifies the best of policing, and is truly a model of 21st Century Policing.

THE SENTINEL

As with many of my law enforcement activities over the last 25 years, they are memorialized in The Sentinel.

This provides a resource for law enforcement, government leaders, and communities.

The documentation respects the importance of collaboration; and the need to work together to empower, encourage, and inspire character.

It also serves my goal of assisting law enforcement agencies to be recognized as a national model of 21st Century Policing.

These efforts are published in my numerous articles for the National Association of Chiefs of Police for the last 15 years.

My efforts have been privileged to receive a unique spotlight since my privileged appointment as the NYPD Honorary Law Enforcement Motivational Speaker six months ago.

Honoring American Sacrifices - As memorialized in The Chief of Police

During my remarks today, I took time to share experiences my wife and I had visiting both World War II American military cemeteries in Italy.

We visited these sacred grounds to honor Americans who offered the ultimate sacrifice for freedom.

Respecting our military, and reverence for those who lost their lives in service of our freedom, is an indisputable principle for the reawakening of our nation. 

It is also one of the nine Principles of American Policing.

This respect is complemented by honoring the fallen law enforcement professionals who have lost their lives protecting and serving our communities.

Reflections of the World War II American Military Cemetery visits are memorialized in the journal I maintained during our travels and are as follows:

“In the afternoon, we traveled from Florence, Italy to the Florence American WWII Cemetery, 7 ½ miles south in Impruneta to honor American hero’s from World War II.

“On these sacred grounds lie 4,393 Americans.

“There is also a large sculptured figure on site titled ‘The Spirit of Peace’ and tablets of 1,409 have their names engraved upon it as missing in action.

“While walking these hallowed grounds, we felt mystically connected to these sacred souls, a deeper appreciation of America, and profoundly aware of the price of freedom.”

July 1, 2023: Sicily-Rome American Cemetery

“Today we traveled 1.5 hours by train from Rome to the Sicily-Rome American Cemetery in the town
of Nettuno.

“We then walked 25 minutes from the station to the cemetery, morally obligated as Americans to visit both resting places for our World War II heroes.

“These visitations were enriching spiritual experiences forever engraved into our souls.

“Here in Nettuno is the sacred burial ground of 7,858 Americans. Also, in the on-site chapel an additional 3,095 names are engraved into stone. These are the missing in action, lost at sea, or buried at sea.

China, California, New Jersey

During today's visit I also shared experiences in China, and serving law enforcement in California to work on suicide prevention.

When I returned home to New Jersey after 9 months of travel to Italy, China, and California, I received a call from former NYPD Commissioner Thomas G. Donlon.

Soon after this call, my initiative, built on the pillars of ethical leadership, morale, emotional resiliency, and suicide prevention began. 

I was appointed the NYPD Honorary Law Enforcement Motivational Speaker after an extensive vetting process with many department representatives.

ETHICAL LEADERSHIP, MORALE, RESILIENCY, SUICIDE PREVENTION

While in California on November 7, 2023, there was a sobering headline that pierced my soul:

“Four current and former L.A. Sheriff’s Department employees died by suicide in a 24-hour span”

The suicide deaths, four within 24 hours, prompted a plea from Sheriff Robert Luna urging deputies to check on the well-being of their colleagues and friends.

“We are stunned to learn of these deaths, and it has sent shock waves of emotions throughout the department as we try and cope with the loss of not just one, but four beloved active and retired members of our department family,” Luna said in an emailed statement Tuesday. “During difficult times like these it’s important for personnel regardless of rank or position to check on the well-being of other colleagues and friends.”

Since I would be in California for at least another 2 months, I was compelled to act.

ONE PHONE CALL

Sometimes, as law enforcement knows, moving a mountain can begin with just one phone call, and so I called the U.S. Marshall of the SDNY.

In turn, Marshall Ralph Sozio made one phone call, to the right person, the NYPD liaison in California, and the chain of events to address the crisis began.

The NYPD liaison, Detective John Lunt, set up an initiative for my presentation to representatives from 18 law enforcement agencies from throughout California.

Before continuing, a simple reminder of how to respond to a crisis. We begin communication in a profoundly simple but meaningful way – pick up the phone, and make the call with confidence, resolve, and commitment.

Just one phone call can set into motion a chain of events that can transform lives.

Police Suicides: Awareness, Compassion, Action

Subsequently, this California initiative was followed with an article for my column for the National Association of Chiefs of Police.

The article was titled, Police Suicides: Awareness, Compassion, Action.

OPERATION RESILIENCY: BACKGROUND

Seven months ago, I developed the initiative titled NYPD /FDNY Operation Resiliency: Ethical Leadership, Morale, Emotional Resiliency, Suicide Prevention.

Since then, I have been privileged to conduct presentations including peer support at both the NYPD and FDNY academies and the MTAPD, NYPD promotion classes, fraternal organizations, firehouses, roll calls, suicide prevention training sessions with Dr. Stephen Wacshal of ConQueR Suicide, an NYPD Spiritual Retreat, and many follow up chats and communications.

THE WOUNDED HEALER

As with other recent presentations, today I shared thoughts on The Wounded Healer by Henri Nouwen.

A few thoughts of this concept:

• “When our wounds cease to be a source of shame, and become a source of healing, we have become wounded healers.”

• “Nobody escapes being wounded. We are all wounded people, whether physically, emotionally, mentally, or spiritually.”

• “Our service will not be perceived as authentic, unless it comes from a heart wounded by the suffering we encounter in others.”

• “The main question is not ‘How can we hide our wounds? so we don’t have to be embarrassed, but   How can we put our woundedness in the service of others?”

Besides thoughts on The Wounded Healer, easily transitioned to The Wounded Protector for all law enforcement, I would also like you to be empowered with another thought - The Ethical Protector.

THE ETHICAL PROTECTOR

The Ethical Protector: each of us dedicated to the noble law enforcement profession has a unique moral compass – ethical protectors.

The law enforcement DNA irrefutably has a laser focus - protecting innocent, vulnerable, helpless, and marginalized members of society.

This ethical protector moral compass is so fine-tuned, that we understand that as protectors, that wherever we are, people are safe because of our presence.

THE ETHICAL PROTECTOR: DEDICATED TO THE BROKENHEARTED

A quick thought - after one of my presentations, I was approached by a young woman who asked for my advice.

She asked, “what do I do. I feel so broken inside, a place no one can see, hopeless and most importantly invisible to others. Sometimes I feel that my soul is crying, and if only someone would just acknowledge me, ask me if I am OK – what I would do for someone to invite me to just sit with them and listen to me.”


The brokenhearted are in our families, communities, workplaces, within the NYPD – we must respond with compassion, concern, and empathy. We must have our eyes, and our hearts wide open.

Recently, during one of my volunteer visits to senior residence homes, (where I am privileged to visit about 40 seniors, at times on their death beds, to administer the Eucharist) an 86-year-old woman told me another story.

She shared the story of her father, NYPD Detective James Francis Carberry, who died by suicide in 1938.

Clare told me she was a 10-year-old girl, and the first one to find her father after his death by suicide.

The memory of this tragedy has remained with Claire throughout her life.

Clare asked me to share that she did not have the knowledge as a child to see, the signs.

She asked me to share - you have the power through your encounters, observation skills, empathy, compassion, and sixth-sense to respond to the warning signs of brokenness.

Do so with kindness, dignity, and affirmation – you can change, and save lives.

DR. CONRAD BAARS: THE HEALING POWER OF AFFIRMATION

During the last 45 years, I have been a practitioner of the famous psychiatrist Dr. Conrad Baars.

His vast collection of books can be summed up as follows:

Affirmation has a power that can transform lives.  It is a catalyst that ignites hope into the souls of human beings. Affirmation recognizes, appreciates, and encourages the qualities of others.


“The challenges of life can deprive individuals of the basic human need of unconditional love and appreciation. Yet, the affirmative person, the wounded healer, and for us today, the wounded protector, inspires healing of the body, mind, spirit, and emotions.”    Vincent J. Bove

A REFLECTION

Inspired by the honor guard of the Tomb of the Unknown Soldier at Arlington National Cemetery in Washington D.C., I ask you to apply these words from the Sentinel’s creed, from those who guard the tomb.

This sacred place holds our heroes who died in service of America.

The message from their creed applies to each of us; in our noble, necessary, and admirable work to protect society:


“My dedication to this sacred duty is total and wholehearted. In the responsibility bestowed upon me, never will I falter.

“And with dignity and perseverance my standard will remain perfection.”

Let us continue our mission as it is honorable and necessary for our communities, and always remember that each of you is appreciated and admired.

FINAL REFLECTION: THE LIBERATION MONUMENT

Surrounded by the significance of Ellis Island, the Statue of Liberty and the New York skyline is the Liberation Monument in Liberty View Park, Jersey City, N.J.

Designed by sculptor Nathan Rapaport, this inspirational statue depicts a World War II American soldier carrying a survivor from a concentration camp.

This image moves the soul to reflect on the values of compassion, character, and courage.

A photo of this magnificent monument is often shared with my audiences. 

It is my sincere hope to inspire them to connect with the great Americans of our history, and uphold their legacy through their privileged profession as members of the NYPD.

Leadership is pivotal for our NYPD personnel, and all our first responders. 

Our public servants are a national treasure. We must be fully dedicated and committed to assisting each of them, and one another. 

This will lead to America's rightful destiny as a beacon of moral leadership for the world.

NOTE WELL:  It has been my privilege to collaborate with the Columbia Lighthouse Project (CLP)
over the last two months, and to use their emotional resiliency and suicide prevention app on my phone. 

During this time, I have also distributed their suicide awareness and prevention card to NYPD personnel. 

Recently, NYPD Health and Wellness realized the advantage of collaborating with CLP and will have the CLP suicide prevention app available to NYPD personnel. 

This imperative technology as documented in my Principles of American Policing for the NACOP (Cover Story / Summer 2015) is essential to benefit the emotional resiliency of the NYPD, and law enforcement throughout America.

    Principle of America Policing No. Five is as follows:  

      “Police deserve the latest and most effective technology to protect themselves and the public." 

    ABOUT VINCENT

Vincent J. Bove is a national speaker, author, and confidant on issues critical to America with 325 published works.

His most recent of four books are Reawakening America © and Listen to Their Cries.© 

Bove is recipient of the FBI Director's Community Leadership Award, former confidant of players from two world-champion New York Yankee teams, and served as spokesperson for a coalition of Virginia Tech tragedy victim's families. 

In 2024, Bove was appointed Honorary Law Enforcement Motivational Speaker by the NYPD.  

In this role he addresses ethical leadership, building morale, emotional resiliency, and suicide prevention at NYPD and FDNY events, roll calls, firehouses, and in published works.

Bove has been an author for the National Association of Chiefs of Police for 15 years. He has over 60 published works, and an unprecedented 18 cover stories for their magazine.

Bove served the Bergen County Police Chiefs Association for 20 consecutive years as liaison and chairperson on policing leadership, violence prevention, and public safety issues.

He conducted Leadership Principles: Crisis Planning, Community Partnerships, Violence Prevention © keynotes to safeguard New York City at sites including:

·       Museums hosted by the Museum of Modern Art (MoMA)

·       Corporations hosted by The New York Stock Exchange

·       Hospitals hosted by Rockefeller University

·       Properties hosted by The Union Club of New York

·       Universities hosted by Columbia University, the New York Athletic Club and Fordham University.

Bove has conducted extensive leadership presentations for the NYPD, FBI, the United States Military Academy, law enforcement, educators, security professionals, and students nationwide. vincentbove.com

“We must all serve as catalysts to protect our workplaces, schools, communities, public spaces, houses of worship, and one another. 

“Public safety demands leadership, vigilance, and collaboration.  

"Security and personal safety demands comprehensive enhancements, on-going training, effective response to warning signs, and building bridges with law enforcement, private security, and every member of the community.”  Vincent J Bove


PHOTOS:
1. The NYPD 32 in Harlem, May 13, 2025. Reawakening America LLC (RALLC)
2.  The NYPD 32 in Harlem, May 13, 2025. Reawakening America LLC (RALLC)
3. The NYPD 32 in Harlem, May 13, 2025. NYPD Officer Ellen Usher with Vincent Bove at Tribute Wall. Reawakening America LLC (RALLC)
4. The NYPD 32 in Harlem, May 13, 2025, evening roll call.  Reawakening America LLC (RALLC)
5. Florence American Military Cemetery, June 21, 2023. Reawakening America LLC (RALLC)
6. Sicily Rome American Cemetery, July 1, 2023. (RALLC)
7. Detective Francis Buckley and Detective William Miller were shot and killed by a suspect on January 6, 1922 while they were questioning the shooting of a patrolman the previous month. Both served the community of the NYPD 32, over 100 years ago.
8. The Columbia Lighthouse Project. Identify Risk. Prevent Suicide.
9. The NACOP article titled The Tomb of the Unknown Soldier, Vincent J. Bove. (NACOP)
10. The Liberation Monument, Jersey City, NJ. (RALLC)
11. Principles of America Policing, Cover Story by Vincent J. Bove for the NACOP, Summer 2015, also published numerous times since 2015 in The Sentinel and NACOP articles.
12. The NYPD 32 in Harlem, May 13, 2025. Reawakening America LLC (RALLC)

 

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